The Curious Case of "I-You" evolving into "I-Thou"

I have ALOT of friends, I don't know any other way to emphasize that. I adore all my friendships because each individual has a different effect on my like whether it's minor or serious. I am very open with most of my acquaintances because I want them to respect the person I am.  But there is only one, and I mean one relationship that I never thought would escalate to where it is now. It's with my best friend Julian, for now we'll call him "Jules" (his nickname from me to him). We started off just as an "I-It" type of communication, we were new hires at my job, very young, "trying to fit in" type teens. I never really seen him because we worked different shifts, but when I got the chance to really size him up, I almost fell in love. He had some type of persona that I never seen in a boy before, it was weird, I was too shy to act on it. Then one day, we had a shift together, we spent the entire time talking about all kinds of stuff. I truly do not know how we ended up with each others numbers but I knew it just felt right. We stayed up every given night talking for up to 6 hours, probably more. He was just everything I ever wanted in a guy friend. We had venting sessions and secret sharing sessions, at this point we had our feet well into the "I-You" communication relationship. In my head, we were like boyfriend and girlfriend without the title.
To make a long story short, we had gotten into 4 major fights (arguments), the type where we gave each other the cold shoulder and the silent treatment. Inside, I felt my heart deteriorating every day I stood without him. I would be the first one to apologize, I can't ever hold a grudge especially to a boy I appreciate and adore so much. Now that we've been best friends for a year and a half, I know we are well into the "I-Thou" communication, regardless of the distance. Once you create that type of communication, that person is irreplaceable. Looking back, I most definitely see where our boundaries are as a couple and he still respects me no matter what circumstances come our way. My best friend is like a lover, brother, and a friend in one package :)

Linear Vs. Interactive

I know for a fact we all have a problem with focusing for a long time, listening to a teacher or professor lecture. In other words, it seems like time is in slow motion and your eyes drop with the time -_-. For me, this is a perfect example of a type of "linear model" of communication. Honestly, information goes through one ear and definitely out the other. Linear model communication is not a favorite to kinesthetic learners such as myself. This form of communication is for auditory learners or in better words, those who like to listen or are too shy or lazy to follow on the information given. In contrast, "interactive models" of communication are my best friends. I am able to interact with my peers, a group who has pretty much the same knowledge as me, we're able to use our resources in order to understand a lecture or whatever is going on. Also, questioning is a great way to communicate in order to get a better understanding of what's going on; yet another way to put "interactive models" of communication into perspective :)

PerfectlyImperfectBio

Hello, I am Folasade Ogunbanwo but I go by Sade' (Shaw-day). I am currently 17 going on 25(sarcasm) on September 14th. I still want to be a big kid sometimes but who doesn't. I am a first-year student, fresh meat is what I think of. I was born and raised in Tracy,CA but relocated to Stockton,CA. Yes, it is on of the 10 most dangerous cities in the nation but that doesn't make up the person I am. As you can see, I have a sense of humor, very outgoing, always optimistic, and always trying to see how I can help others or benefit myself. I come from a sort of broken home, I don't really blame my past on my present and future. My mom raised me along with 4 and half siblings (I have a half brother that she used to raise, he counts). I've come a long way, and my journey is just beginning.
I have a very big and loud voice that is very distinctive and easy to point out. I love to talk especially to motivate others. That's how I "communicate" with others, through encouraging and optimistic conversations. I have zero experience in communication studies, I am open minded to what I will acquire in the class. I mainly hope to enhance my communication skills and become more educated on the forms of communicating. Also, I want to make sure that the degree/major I am aiming for is suitable for me, which happens to be Public Relations by the way. I hope that everyone enjoys my posts; bear with me though, blogging is very new to me.