I have ALOT of friends, I don't know any other way to emphasize that. I adore all my friendships because each individual has a different effect on my like whether it's minor or serious. I am very open with most of my acquaintances because I want them to respect the person I am. But there is only one, and I mean one relationship that I never thought would escalate to where it is now. It's with my best friend Julian, for now we'll call him "Jules" (his nickname from me to him). We started off just as an "I-It" type of communication, we were new hires at my job, very young, "trying to fit in" type teens. I never really seen him because we worked different shifts, but when I got the chance to really size him up, I almost fell in love. He had some type of persona that I never seen in a boy before, it was weird, I was too shy to act on it. Then one day, we had a shift together, we spent the entire time talking about all kinds of stuff. I truly do not know how we ended up with each others numbers but I knew it just felt right. We stayed up every given night talking for up to 6 hours, probably more. He was just everything I ever wanted in a guy friend. We had venting sessions and secret sharing sessions, at this point we had our feet well into the "I-You" communication relationship. In my head, we were like boyfriend and girlfriend without the title.
To make a long story short, we had gotten into 4 major fights (arguments), the type where we gave each other the cold shoulder and the silent treatment. Inside, I felt my heart deteriorating every day I stood without him. I would be the first one to apologize, I can't ever hold a grudge especially to a boy I appreciate and adore so much. Now that we've been best friends for a year and a half, I know we are well into the "I-Thou" communication, regardless of the distance. Once you create that type of communication, that person is irreplaceable. Looking back, I most definitely see where our boundaries are as a couple and he still respects me no matter what circumstances come our way. My best friend is like a lover, brother, and a friend in one package :)
I love the fact that you started of by stating you have a lot of friends, i find that interesting to read, if that makes sense. I agree with friends being minor or major parts of anyone's life. Without friends you won't really have a life or a fun one. I met the guy I like currently at work to. I always get along with everyone at work unless they have something against me for no reason then I ignore them and talk to the rest of the co workers. When i first started my job, I thought this guy was cute but I didn't want to say anything because I am shy when it comes to relationships so i just let flow and my motto was whatever happens happens. He gave me his phone one day and told me to put my number in it and the next day he texted me. The talking stage/ honey moon stage is the best stage and hopefully the honey moon stages lasts forever. Arguments are okay to have as long as they get solved at the end of the day because you wont know what the next day has in store. I love the type of best friends like that. Those are sometimes hard to find. I'm happy for you.
ReplyDeleteThank you very much :) Yeah the man that mybest friend is, is just indescribable. I don't even mind having a boyfriend, I feels like he's just enough. The going will always get tough but I'm sure you and I both know that we are capable of many thinbs and can handle whatever comes our way. Just know what's real ;)2
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