Friday, October 5, 2012
Emotional Percpectives
The idea of Emotion Work applies to my life in many way, that I have not noticed before. For one, I do not believe in grudges. Why do I say this? Wood talks about how it is wrong to "be gleeful when someone you dislike is hurt". I can agree but many of us, as humans ignore the moral factors. I do have some individuals in life that I dislike, many of them have humiliated me or has done something that has hurt my feelings but I taught myself how to manipulate the emotions of "revenge" or getting even. I can't get mad nor can I stay mad. Although I want to "dislike" that person forever, in my head -they get another chance. Another example is like a homeless person, when they ask me for money, if I have it I'll give it to them with no hesitation. A lot of people would say "They're drug addicts" or "Why pay them for being lazy", but to me if those are their habits of keeping them alive, then so be it. I do not sympathize nor do I grieve, I just hope and pray they continue to live their chosen path, as happy as can be. There are just certain emotions and instincts I cannot control and rather not change -even if it makes my neighbor happy or sad.
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I really enjoyed reading your post, because I can relate to it in so many ways. Like you, I do have a few people that dislike me, but I would not wish that something horrible happened to them. I can definitely say that I too have, “taught myself how to manipulate the emotions of ‘revenge’ or getting even”. Some people have done extremely bad things to me, but I just don't have it in my heart to hate them. There is definitely a difference between the words “hate” and “dislike”, and although I do have some people dislike, I honestly don’t think I hate anyone. I definitely agree when you spoke about the homeless. There are people that say that they just want the money for beer or drugs. There has been times when I buy the homeless person food and I watch them devour the food, which makes me realize that some homeless do want the money to eat. You couldn’t have said it any better, “There are just certain emotions and instincts I cannot control”.
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