No Empathy Taken

Oh my gosh, I couldn't wait to tackle this topic about being and feeling disconfirmed, even with those I hold close to my heart. We're all human so of course we all have stories to tell about this defensive communication. I have so many, I don't know where to start. But I think I'm going to talk about my best friend, Julian. You may think since we best friends, especially a boy and a girl couple, that we'd have the most love-y, dove-y friendship -almost to where we're dating but without the title, guess again. Although he is my best friend, I also think he's a robot. I'd spend hours with this boy and when I tell him something, I'd expect him to react a certain way. Nope, not at all! Instead he gives me the most barefaced, vague answer, and then blows off my feelings like they never exist. He's not the sensitive, "venting to" kind of guy. And although it bothers me, I've learned to compromise. I try not to put to many feelings on him now, instead I give him a little at a time and just push the reaction that I want out little by little. He's also starting to be more empathetic when we talk now that we don't live near each other anymore. I don't give him a taste of his own medicine. I just cope with him. I just hope that over time he hits his feelings landmark.