"Whoever says Friendship is easy has obviously never had a true friend!"
- Bronwyn Polson
I back this quote up 100%, if you haven't been through a lot of heartache, struggle, or pain with a friend; the you've never really experienced the genuine meaning of friendship. But are the challenges really worth it in the end?One issue that most individuals that partake in a friendship is trust. It was one of the topics on the advice forum. In the reading it states that dependability and emotional reliability are the key ingredients for a successful and long-lasting friendship. In all honesty, what would be the point of being friends when one cannot vent to the other or when one exposes another's biggest, darkest secret. Friendships are hard to build in our generation because everything is taken for granted. As we become older and wiser, it seems like your bike riding budding turns into a jealous enemy who would try to get as close to you as possible to tear your foundation or success down. Unfortunately, that is the harsh reality of friendship and after viewing the issues that revolve around friendships I think I will continue to keep my number to the bare minimum.
The issues on trust are most encountered problem in relationship. According to the statistics acquired by marriage counselors, one of the major issues that lead to divorce rate on the rise is trust. The book emphasized, that trust is a key component of a close friendship. It just don’t happen on the first date, it gradually develop as both individual, begins to share their personal life experiences and the degree of information they send across to each other. I once had trust issues, with my friends, when I was growing up, it was difficult for me to leave my personal belongings, anytime I go out to play with my friends on the field, but I over came it:)
ReplyDeleteYour quote really caught my attention. I was going to skim through your post at first and quickly get 100 words in on this post for this class, but I found myself reading your entire post and agreeing with you. With every best friend I have had in the past, I always ask myself "is this friendship real?" or "is this friendship worth keeping and working for?" Throughout high school, I feel like I was unable to answer yes to those two questions unfortunately. But I still believe that one day I shall find that one true homie. We will fight, and it will be okay. Because in the end, we'll know that our friendship isn't worth losing over a little bicker.
ReplyDeleteI fully agree with your quote! Friendship is definitely something you work for and invest a lot of time in. Trust is a huge factor that has to be present for a friendship to work or any other type of relationship to further and develop. Obviously, there is going to be challenges and if you expect a fairy tale friendship where everything is perfect, you are going to be disappointed and probably not have many friends. The hardships can definitely be worth it though! Knowing you invested time, reliability, trust, honesty, and commitment into a friendship that works, grows, develops, and deepens is something that's really beautiful. We have to suffer to see the beauty in our efforts.
ReplyDeleteIt's sad but we do take a lot of things for granted. Back when we didn't have computers or iphones, we did a lot of things on our own. We did certain things like manually washing our clothes. These things developed character and discipline that allowed us to appreciate the things we have in life. I have many friends but there's maybe only 1 or 2 that i consider a true friend. Many of them take the things i do for them for granted and i absolutely hate that. I wish the world was filled with more appreciative people. I honestly wonder how this world will be when we're in the year of 2050 or even the 22nd century...
ReplyDeleteHey Tina I read your post and I agree with what you said, it is not easy to get faithful friends. People are not confined to hanging out with their old buddies but can make new friends with so much exposure to information, Internet, social media, entertainment. I think some people are really lucky to get friends who stick with them in thick and thin. It is practically impossible to guess who is a well-wisher, and who envies you. Also I think this is predominant among girls because girls get jealous and competitive more than boys do. That is why just like you I prefer to have few good friends rather than having a bandwagon of superficial friends.
ReplyDeleteI never thought of it that way, but the quote that you have is 100% correct. Everybody who has a true friend has had to go through some sort of hard time with that person. The hard time could be a time when your friend doesn’t have time for you or you and your friend get in a fight about a boy. Like you said, trust plays another big role in friendship and sometimes it is what creates a struggle that you go to with your friends. You may feel as though you can trust one person with anything, and once you tell them a secret, they go out and tell the whole world about it. This causes tension between the two of you and it takes a while for your friendship to fully recover. Very insightful post.
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